Who Gets an Invite to the Rehearsal Dinner?

You’ve decided to host a rehearsal dinner to make sure everything runs smoothly for the big day—great choice! But now, who should you invite? What’s the etiquette? Don’t worry, it’s not as complicated as it seems! Rehearsal dinners are usually smaller, more laid-back affairs that let you spend some quality time with your closest family and friends before the wedding whirlwind begins. Still, figuring out exactly who to include can feel a little tricky.

To make things easier, we’ve put together a few simple tips on who to invite to your rehearsal dinner and why they’ll appreciate being there!

The Wedding Party

These are the people who have been by your side through the planning process and who will stand next to you as you say "I do." Bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, and ring bearers (along with their parents) should definitely be at your rehearsal dinner. It’s a chance for everyone to relax together and gear up for the big day!

Immediate Family

Your immediate family – parents, siblings, and grandparents – are essential guests at the rehearsal dinner. They’ve likely played a major role in helping you prepare for the wedding, and this is a great time to thank them. Plus, it’s a chance for both families to spend some time together before the whirlwind of the wedding day.

Out-of-Town Guests

If you have guests traveling from far and wide to attend your wedding, especially close family or friends, it’s thoughtful to invite them to the rehearsal dinner. They’ve made the effort to be there for your big day, and including them in this pre-wedding event shows your appreciation.

The Officiant (and Their Plus-One)

If your officiant is someone close to you, like a family friend or even a hired professional who’s spent time getting to know you, inviting them to the rehearsal dinner is a kind gesture. They’re playing an important role in your ceremony, and it’s a nice way to show your thanks. Don't forget their plus-one if they’re bringing someone!

Plus-Ones for the Wedding Party

Remember that your wedding party might have significant others who will be at the wedding. Including their plus-ones at the rehearsal dinner can help everyone feel more comfortable, especially if they're not familiar with all the other guests. It’s a great way to make your gathering more inclusive and fun.

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The rehearsal dinner is about celebrating with your nearest and dearest, so there’s no need to go overboard with the guest list. Stick to the people who are closest to you and who have played a role in your wedding journey. The most important thing is to surround yourself with people you love and who love you back. Keep it simple, personal, and most of all—fun!